New Year, New Relationship

It’s a new year—how is your relationship doing?

If you’re like me, you don’t like going into the new year with relationship issues.

Yes, of course, relationship issues are always happening on some level.

But, what I’m talking about are significant challenges.

Are you dealing with constant disagreements?

You want more togetherness, they want more sovereignty? (Or vice versa).

You need more from them, and you get the sense that they want less.

You’re feeling smothered.

You’re feeling abandoned.

Any way you slice it, something needs to shift, and you’re not sure how you’re going to get there.

The end of the year is a good time to address this.

Typically, there is no peace in your heart if you’re struggling in your relationship.

Maybe you’re in a “situationship,” where you want more from the partner, but they aren’t ready to give it.

Maybe you’re dating someone, and you know it’s wrong, but you just can’t seem to get out because the sex is good.

Or maybe you’re in a long term relationship where the sex isn’t good, but you can’t see yourself leaving because you’re so tied in.

I talk to so many people, with so many different life circumstances.

Married, divorced, single.

Some are happy and want more.

Some are frustrated and want something different.

If you’re wanting a different experience of life, it may be time to try looking in the shadow.

This process will give you keys to why you keep experiencing the same things in your romantic relationships.

You’ll open up to the part of yourself that wants it this way, and therefore keeps it like it is.

Yes, there is a part that wants something different, something more—but this isn’t the part that’s winning right now.

What’s winning is the “status quo.”

Sure, you can try to simply “ride this out.”

But the truth is that it’s not going to change unless you address it.

Nothing is going to be different unless you make it different.

Don’t go into the new year with the same old relationship issues.

Work your shadow, and step into the new year with new possibility.